Every Monday I post Real Life Minimalists, a profile of one of my readers in their own words. If you’d like to participate, click here for details.
Today we have a wonderful story from Veronica, who tells us how she embraced minimalism to live in a van. Read more about her experience on her blog.
Veronica writes:
My life as a minimalist began in an unconventional way. I was working my non-profit dream job, but it had become a nightmare. I knew I needed to make a change. Nonetheless, I had no idea how life altering of a change it would be.
That Easter, my partner Jordan surprised me with a big, green Dodge conversion van! He quickly explained his decision and I quickly put in my two weeks. However, there was nothing quick about deciding what to take with me.
Jordan was already a nomad, so he let me know we each had room for one large suitcase of personal stuff. As I looked around my well-stocked room, I knew minimizing would take some time.
I was an avid Sex and the City fan, so I knew the only way to decide what came with me was to drink alcohol and put things in piles. I divided everything I had into three categories: send home, throw away, and bring along. Unfortunately, not everything fit as neatly into the piles as it did on my favorite television show.
Minimizing for a long, unplanned journey is not easy, but over the two weeks I paired my gaggle of stuff down to what could fit in a large suitcase.
I was forced to choose between items that were comforting versus items that would be useful. Honestly, the most difficult part was sending home some books I always carried with me. Until I had to put a value on my stuff, I never realized how much of a hold inanimate objects had over me. My emotional attachment to things was obvious by the pain I felt segregating my stuff. However, it was not just pain. Behind the pain was guilt. I actually felt as if I was betraying my stuff! Although I had never thought of myself as materialistic before, I seemed to fit the definition quite well.
Throughout my time living in our van, I had no choice but to refrain from buying anything I did not need. We even bought our food on a need-based schedule. It was during this time my attitude toward “things” changed. As I focused on living one day at a time, I felt the mental load of material goods lighten.
I think what really helped me get out of my materialistic mindset was traveling in nature. A little background may help. I grew up in Southern Indiana, and all I had to look at were cornfields. Sure, I went fishing and hiking but every day life was the same. In a way I needed objects to give my life value, because I had nothing else.
Life was completely different traveling in the van. Every day there was something new to see or a new perspective to gain.
On the road, I experienced awe for the first time. In that moment, I had an epiphany that would change the way I lived the rest of my life forever: the cheap emotional fulfillment of stuff pales in comparison to the wealth of fulfillment in experiences.
Although I haven’t spent any time living in a van for a couple of years now, I have managed to stay true to the invaluable lessons I learned about life as a minimalist. I still use the majority of my money on experiences versus things, I focus on finding joy in nature, and I try to get active outside at least once a week. To top it all off, I’ve made an annual tradition of purging a la Sex and the City style!
If you want to learn more about life on the open road, check out my site http://vansage.com, where I write about maximum life experiences and minimal gear related to van life.
Thanks for reading. :)
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Archana
Thank you for sharing. I wish you a great van life. Sounds like a dream.
Priscilla
How adventurous! It sounds like your lifestyle change has made you very happy. Now I’m going to head on over to your blog and check out your travels!
Deann
I like your comment about feeling guilt for your stuff. I’ve had similar feelings when decluttering or packing for a trip (I once apolized off hand to a dress I decided not to take on vacation and then laughed at the weird verbal tic). I think that’s one danger in minnimalism for me- I only keep the things that I truly love or are really useful so I get a little more attached to those things than I would if I had hundreds of little things.
Thanks so much for your post!
Tina
I have always sorted my stuff. We go on trips with carry-on suitcases or smaller ones. This time we went to Florida to visit family. I was given some clothes by a relative and gave away some of what I brought. I also collected some shells.Luckily my suitcase had a gusset I had never used so it became a little bigger.
Michael
Veronica, I love how you describe the difference between having few things and actually feeling like a minimalist. You were forced to get rid of your stuff in order to embark on your (awesome) journey but it wasn’t until you started living intentionally that you realized the hold your stuff had on you. Thanks for sharing!
Tina
I have been helping my non-minimalist daughter sort her things. Finally, she has sold 10 big bags of paperback novels. She has also given me 6 garbage bags of clothes which I wash and give away to various organizations. Then there are all the bags of papers. I have sorted and shredded and recycled. She has also had friends and relatives come over to help her with sorting and cleaning. I am so proud of her because this has always been hard for her.
Tina
I keep sorting and filling bags and boxes with give away items. We replaced two huge bookcases with smaller ones. I went through all my plastic containers and found several I had not used in over a year. I filled each one with things I didn’t need. One is filled with paints and paintbrushes I bought
years ago for a class I taught twice and never taught again. Then I filled another with ribbon and embroidery floss and a few packages of needles. I filled another with broken jewelry. More big bags are full. My daughter is off work for one more month and she threw away some old photos and found more
books to give away. Then I found five pairs of earrings to donate and some fabric to throw out because the pieces are so small. Some duplicate tweezers went. Some old nuts and bolts that didn’t match went. The funny thing is I had less stuff than any of my friends to start with.